Sometimes, I show up wearing the wrong hat to the wrong place, at the wrong time.
For instance, when I need to put on my Friend hat, I instead don my Doula hat. The Doula hat is a model with a built-in feature that allows my brain to sift through a person’s various options, their benefits, risks, and alternatives, and hit on just the right one in seconds flat. Problem solved! All while my friend just needed me to listen and hear and maybe even empathize a little, rather than listen and reply.
One dear friend called me on it one day. Lovingly. Ever since, I have been trying so hard to make sure I have the right head gear on.
I don’t know how often I choose rightly, but I can honestly say that I am trying so very hard to to “be everything to everyone, so that I might save some.” And by “save,” I mean “be truly useful to.” To be what they need. Not what I think they need.
It’s hard to do. Because, frankly, I can’t save anyone anyway. Including myself.
So, help me out. If you notice that I am wearing the the wrong accessory upon my cranium, please kindly inform me, so that I can avoid being an idiot.
Thanks so much.
Grace & Peace,