Not really. It seems that, no matter how much I struggle and fail, He is faithful to pick me up.
I love that.
Last night, I sat down at the table and colored with the kids. We were going to play Yahtzee, but crayons and coloring books got the best of us.
I still have a couple of Precious Moments coloring books I bought years ago, before I was married, I think. I keep them stashed for coloring emergencies.
It’s the little things in life – like the feel of crayon on that rough coloring book paper – that make everyday life better. I should color more often. It’s so relaxing and fun to transform a black-and-white image into something pretty.
Plus, the kids thought my coloring was just way beyond amazing. Yay for a cheap ego-boost! Okay, not really. I just really, really had a nice time being with my sweet kiddos. I don’t do that enough. Yes, I’m with them basically 24/7, but it’s not often that I play with them or just do something fun. There is always schoolwork to supervise, chores to do, squabbles to referee, battle wounds to dress, and behavior to correct.
Sometimes, it feels like it’s a never-ending stream of bossing, instead of mothering.
Last night woke me up a little. Everyday, I’m going to be working on it. I can change. I can be more open, more available, and more of a friend to them. Not less of a mother–God forbid! I know my primary job is not friendship with my children, but I do believe that it is one of them.
Motherhood is, primarily, a relationship with my kids. A relationship of godly authority and guidance first, but friendship too. As long as I don’t get the order wrong, then I hope that my children will be among my best friends once they are grown. If I am not a friend (a friend who speaks the truth in love, sharpens them as iron sharpens iron, and loves them unconditionally), why should I expect them to come to me for guidance and help as they begin to navigate the tough times of adolescence? If I don’t want them turning to their peers (who don’t know any better than they do), then I have to earn that through godly friendship.
I hope to build that friendship on being a good example, faith, godly correction and discipline, and unconditional love. In addition to that, I intend to spend more time on coloring, board games, movie nights, and entering their world whenever I can. After the schoolwork, life skills, chores, and corrections take place. The hard work has to come before play–like I keep telling them–but play is still on the list, and is still important.
I don’t want to forget that.
Just a thought I have this morning. A thought I didn’t even set out to share. I literally just sat down and started writing…weird what comes out when my fingers start moving. How do you view friendship with your children? Why?
Grace & Peace,